For the Monday Morning whiners

Monday morning again and i start to scroll through my facebook status updates…whine, complain, boo hoo, whine, whine, is all I can see.

I have little something to say to all my complaining friends..

If you are whining about not wanting to go to work: At least you have a job…there are a lot of people who wouldn’t mind waking up on a Monday and having YOUR job. If you hate your job so much that you can’t continue…then do everyone a favor (including yourself) and leave. You are definitely not putting in 100% and would be happier somewhere else.

if you are complaining about your health: Do something about it! Chances are. Your lifestyle had a lot to do with it…western medicine is merely disease management … For health, you will have to look elsewhere. Take some responsibility for your condition: more than likely, it’s been your lifestyle that has affected your health. Time to change!

if you are complaining about your spouse/partner/boyfriend /girlfriend : When was the last time you did something nice for them? Chances are, it’s been a while. I’m sure they have their faults, but I’m betting you are no prize yourself.

If you are complaining about being depressed: Go out and help someone! It’s hard to feel sorry for yourself when you are helping someone who is likely in a worse situation than you are.

So there! If you insist on continuing to whine…at least make it funny or interesting so we can all laugh at your misery.

Everything is OK with the world.

It’s a dreary afternoon, my daughter Audrey and I are at the coffee shop sharing a danish. The music is perfectly appropriate.

Audrey is engrossed in her game, but it’s fine…we are in sync today. We don’t need to talk to communicate.

I’m sitting here watching her and people-watching at the same time.

I get the feeling that everything is OK with the world.

What I deal with sometimes

964702_10151401421632003_1645388723_oOn a new client’s first visit , I always like to take time and explain chiropractic and the adjustment to everyone. I was talking and noticed that there was a glazed look in the person’s face.

I brought it down to a 4th grade level…still glazed look. Frustrated, told her to go ahead and lie down so we could get started. I found some stuff that needed help and proceeded to do “my thing.”

This is how it went:
Client: OH MY GOD! WHAT WAS THAT?!!
Me: That was an adjustment.
Client: Are you going to do that again?!
Me: Probably, since I’m a chiropractor and that’s what we do.
Client: Oh, ok.

Things I would go back and tell my younger self

lildannyI’ve just had a “milestone” birthday, and that’s caused me to reflect back on my life. I don’t regret much…because it’s brought me to this point-a point where I’m generally happy with my life so far.

Things I would tell my kid self:

  • I know your brother breaks your stuff and he is able to get away with things you wouldn’t…let it go. One day you will both look back on all that and laugh.
  • Stick with something and finish! Whether it’s piano, guitar, or karate. One day you will wish you had leaned one of those skills.
  • Oh, and give your mom a break-she is smothering, but she loves you.

What I would tell my teenage self:

  • Don’t worry about people liking you. Be yourself. You’re pretty awesome.
  • Those girls that you were afraid to talk to? They like you too. They told me.
  • For God’s sake, do something about that hair!

What I would tell my 20′s self:

  • Figure out what you like to do. Don’t take college classes just for the heck of it. Most of those classes you’re taking and stressing about won’t be of any use to you later.
  • Don’t worry about finding the perfect girl you are going to bring home to mom. She’s going to hate her anyway.
  • Don’t co-sign a loan for a friend, dummy.
  • That job that you stress out about…does it really make you happy? Can you see yourself doing that for the rest of your life?
  • Seriously, that hair…do something.

What I would say to my 30′s self:

  • Insure your shit.
  • Don’t lose your focus.
  • Call your dad more.
  • By the way, your mother is still going to hate whomever you bring home this time.
  • At least you have hair.

What I would say to my 40′s self:

  • Hey, you deserve to be happy. Stop trying to please others that don’t appreciate you and what makes you special. You are making yourself miserable.
  • Stop being so scared of taking business risks. Do your thing exactly the way you envisioned it. Why wait around?
  • It wouldn’t kill you to get on a treadmill every now and then, either.

Im sure that in ten years I’ll have another list for myself. Hopefully telling me that I’m still a pretty awesome sexy guy with great hair and his stuff together.

However, you never know…I could still go off the deep end. Stay Tuned.

Be Congruent

We were just talking today about first impressions when meeting people. Sometimes I get an instant “dislike” to someone upon meeting, even though they have never done or said anything bad to me. The older I get, the more I will usually go with my gut instincts and not engage the person any deeper if possible.

One of the reasons that was brought up is that people who are not congruent with their words, thoughts, and actions are usually the ones that “turn me off”

You know these people, too. They are the ones with all the advice-yet their lives are in shambles, the “preachy” ones that have their closets full of skeletons.

I’ve been accused of “not having a filter” or “being too transparent” at times… but not usually about my stance on things. I’m not confrontational…but I’m not above turning around and wailing away from someone I can’t stomach.

Anyway, the purpose of this rambling post if to encourage you to drop the facade, if you have one-and be more yourself.

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